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A Roadmap for Change:  Increasing Your SQ

July 8, 2007

        Rev. William “Buck” Day

Let’s turn to scripture.  Our scripture today is a conglomerate of a couple different scriptures and I want to invite you to…. take a look at this!…. That’s a 34 inch Northern that was caught on Table Lake in Canada by yours truly.  A little fishing excursion and that’s my big fish right now, so.  Thank you, Rick; I appreciate that very much.  Let’s try this again and see what’s next.  Ah, O.K.  Let’s turn to scripture.  Would you join me in read it together with me, this is from Matthew.  (Matthew 6:33)

 

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

 

And then from Ephesians: (Ephesians 4:1)

 

As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received.

 

And then from John: (John 10:10)

 

“The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy.  My purpose is to give life in all of its fullness.”

 

This is the word of the Lord.

 

Thanks be to God!

 

Would you pray with me, please?

 

Lord, it is good to be still before you.  So we come and we ask that you will speak to our souls in this moment of stillness.  Lord, allow us to hear what you have for us this day.  We ask that because of Christ.  Amen.

 

Well, the new iphone has hit the market and it promises to change the cell phone world much as the way the ipod has.  People were waiting in line; no doubt you’ve seen that.  It is sold out and on waiting lists, I believe, right now.  But it is changing, they predict, how we will live in our world today.  It is simply just another one of the next latest, greatest, next best things that everybody has to have, isn’t it?  But it also happens, too, in our celebrity world.  Paris is back on her game, so to speak.  We have this fascination with celebrities.  We want to know all the ins and outs of them.  All we need to do is to walk through a grocery store check out line and we can get caught up-to-date right away, even if we don’t want to get caught up-to-date.  There is this part of our world, I think, that just wants to be something beyond ourselves.  We want our fifteen minutes of fame.  I mean, we think of “American Idol” and it is all about that.  “America’s Got Talent”; “So You Think You Can Dance”; all of these shows are all about trying to get beyond something better than what we are right now.  If you think about, “Well, oh, that’s just the world; it’s not those who follow Christ.”  Well, have you looked at the top selling Christian books lately, and their titles?  I think it also speaks to this notion of wanting to get beyond.  The number one best-seller right now on the book list is a fictional book called “Forever.”  Then other books that go by the titles of “Get Out of the Pit”; “Facing Your Giants”; “The Five Love Languages”; “Sex God” (I’m not sure what that’s all about.); “A Purpose Driven Life”; all this idea of probably self-help kind of things.  Then another fictional book, rounding out the list, I think it has an interesting title, “White Chocolate Moments.”  Ahhh.  It is about a woman trying to discover a love that will last forever.  I don’t think it is too much of a stretch to say that all of us are looking for something beyond maybe who we are, or perhaps what we currently have; so we are groping after those things out there.  There are lots of ways, I think, to quantify what that something is.  But I want to suggest to you that that something at the root of it is really about a desire for significance.  We want to be wanted.  We want to matter.  We want to matter to our spouses, if we are married.  We want to matter to our kids, to our friends.  We want to matter to our employers.  We want to matter to God.  We want to be able to get to the end of our life and look back; and, hopefully, someone will say about us, “Boy, I’m glad she was in my life.”  Or “I wouldn’t be where I am without him.”  We desire that.  But that desire for significance, I think, is more than just in the relational world.  I think that desire for significance also carries over into being a part of making a difference in the world.  We all want to make a difference, somehow, someway.  Think about that.  I think about my dad.  My dad was an electrical engineer for the Apollo project that went to the moon.  That was significant.  I think about the people that started “A Walk for the Cure” for breast cancer and how significant that has been for so many people, to say nothing of the money it has raised to help find a cure for breast cancer.  Or how about the improvements that have been made in prosthetic devices; how much of a difference has that made for so many service men and women who are returning from the war.  We all long for things of significance.  We want to have a life of significance, not just maybe on a macro scale; but for many of us that desire for significance probably is more in our severe of influence, the people in our lives, maybe the ways that we interact with the world and can make a difference.  So for us it is about maybe changing our character; changing habits; helping the less fortunate; maybe learning something new, like learning to fillet one of those fishes; maybe working on a relationship with God. I think we all desire to live a life of significance.  As I have been thinking about that, I’m calling that desire for significance our “significance quotient” or “SQ”; and, no, I am not talking about a new Nike golf club.  We all desire to have an increased SQ because we want to make a difference.  We know that when we have an increased SQ, it’s going to require some change on our part.  Change comes in lots of forms, doesn’t it?  Sometimes change is something that we embrace with open arms, particularly when it comes in the form of a new child, a new season of life, perhaps a new friendship; those are things we all welcome.  But sometimes, change is, we kind of keep it out there, don’t we?  Maybe when it is a loss of a loved one, or we are struggling with health issues or employment issues.  But when we begin to think about change and we bring it into God’s realm, there are a couple of things we can say about change.  One is that God does not change.  He is the same yesterday, today and forever.  But even though God does not change, He is in the change business.  He wants to change us; not just for change sake, that doesn’t do any good.  He wants to change us to build us up, to change us to enable growth.  Change always accompanies something new.  I’ll be clear when I say this, hear me; our desire for significance is not a bad thing.  In fact, I believe it is how God has wired us up.  He has wired us up to live lives of significance, because when we live with a higher SQ, not only will we be significant in our world and our relationships; but also we will live lives of significance and we will make an impact for God in the world.  So that is part of how God has put us together. 

 

So the question that I think the world is seeking to answer and that we desire from a Godly perspective is, well then, how do we increase our significance quotient?  Increasing our significance quotient is not a bunch of self-help techniques, five easy, quick fixes to be more significant in your world and your relationships.  Increasing your significance quotient, your SQ, will eventually include practices in our lives, but it doesn’t start there.  It is first and fundamentally an inward change.  It is a change of who we are as people.  I think that is where the world gets messed up, because the world thinks it is all about the outward change.  If we just take care of doing things on an outward scale, then our inward self, our heart, our mind, our attitude, our thoughts, will all begin to fall in line if we do the right thing.  But that’s fundamentally flawed because it works just the opposite.  Increasing our SQ starts here, starts inward, starts with our attitudes, our thoughts, our minds and then works outward.  Dallas Willard is one of our great Christian thinkers in our day and he says of increasing our SQ, “It is really a renovation of the heart.  It is changing our heart to reflect Christ’s heart.  Increasing our SQ apart from Christ is always going to leave us wanting more, because we are never going to be satisfied because there is something that is incomplete about that.  Living a life of significance is first and foremost a spiritual endeavor.  It is not simply changing what we do.”  So let me give you a way to think about this.

 

I have the worst lawn in my neighborhood.  This is a picture of my house.  Not really!  I have the worst lawn in my neighborhood, one of the reasons is because I’m too cheap to pay for lawn service; but the other reason is I have an understanding of how to build a healthy lawn.  A healthy lawn in not just dumping fertilizer and weed killer on it, but it starts with your soil.  A healthy lawn starts with a good soil and it is out of that good soil that healthy grass grows.  So, in order to have a good lawn, you need to start with the soil and when you grow good grass doing that, with good soil, it actually helps keep the weeds down.  So it is with a life of significance.  Living a life of significance starts with changing the inside and then, out of that, comes the change.  That is the exact same thing that Laurie was talking about with our children.  It is about the inside.

 

There are a couple ways to begin to think about increasing our SQ.  There are probably lots of ways but I want to give you three that are I think are pretty critical.  One of them is to live in the Holy Spirit.  As a follower of Jesus Christ, we are new creatures; the old has passed away and the new has come.  Part of that new creature-ness, part of what comes into our life as a follower of Christ, is the Holy Spirit.  The Holy Spirit takes up residence in our lives.  Scripture tells us that the Holy Spirit is given to us to, one, mark who we belong to, we belong to God now so God has given us the Holy Spirit; but then He has also given him to us as a guarantee of what is to come.  Some versions say it is actually “a down payment on our eternal life.”  So the Holy Spirit is given to us.  The Holy Spirit is given to us to make us holy, as God is holy; to take on the character of Christ.  So to live in the Holy Spirit, I think, is two-fold.  It is one, allowing the Holy Spirit to transform our character on the inside so that it reflects Christ; and, then, empowering us to serve and witness for Christ in the world.  I think most followers of Christ get that first part pretty well.  We understand, we probably even welcome, the notion of being changed from the inside out so that we can take on the character of Christ; but I think a lot of us stop right there.  We don’t take that next step of allowing the Holy Spirit to empower us, and that’s the key word, empower us, to serve and to witness.  Now you say, “We all serve and witness.”  Well, we do that.  But how many of us do it out of guilt, out of compulsion, because someone says we have to or we should, the great word, should; instead of allowing the Holy Spirit to empower us and let the serving and the witnessing come out of who we are becoming.  And it comes with joy.  There’s a lot more to say about how that all takes place.  I hope in this next coming year to be able to have a class that would talk about some of those kinds of things because I think a lot of us are asking a lot of those kind of questions.  “How does that happen exactly?”  So hopefully we will get a chance to talk about that this year in a class setting.  But for now, that’s the piece of living in the Holy Spirit; it’s allowing the Holy Spirit to change us from the inside out; and then to empower us, to come with power as we serve and we witness. 

 

Another one of those components for increasing our SQ is to live in community.  We are made in God’s image; and part of being made in God’s image is that we were designed to live with God and to live with each other.  We are to love on each other the way that Jesus loves on us.  We think about Jesus and his life, he was part of the disciples; he cared about them; he lived with them.  He spoke the truth and love to them.  He eventually laid down his life for them; and the group grew under him, as well.  Christ calls us to do the same.  When we are connected to each other in significant ways, growth happens.  When we are connected, it gives an opportunity for iron to sharpen iron, to use that old adage.  Life change, I believe, best happens in the context of groups.  We are going to talk a lot about this idea of community this upcoming year, this notion of being connected.  There are a lot of ways to be connected and I know that many of you are connected in groups right now, in small groups; and that’s a good thing. If you are not, we want to try to create more small groups going forward.  But I also want to say that small groups are not the only way to live in community.  I think there can be larger groups that also provide that same function of encouragement, of support, of fellowship and of growth.  One of the ways that we are going to kind of experiment with that in this upcoming year is what I am calling gathering groups.  Gathering groups are simply a group of people that what to get together who are the same age and life stage.  We are going to start with a couple of those this fall and see how it goes.  If you want to find out more about those, come and talk to me or keep an eye out for what’s going on in the Faith in Action as well as the website.  But, living in community is a critical piece of increasing our significance quotient.

 

One final component about increasing our SQ is to live in the Word.  The scripture is the baseline for living a life of significance.  When we look at the characters of scripture those characters all lived with a high SQ.  So I invite you read through the wonderful stories of scripture about the many great characters and live with them so you can see how they acted; what they did; what they said; kind of what they smell and taste like; so that we can live that way as well.  As you do that, I invite you to ponder the words that come out of scripture because I think that many of us just plain read scripture too fast.  We read it too fast, we kind of blow through it maybe because we have to or we are trying to get something done or we are just trying to get through our devotion.  My pastoral word to you today is “slow down.”  Slow down; let the words kind of dwell in your thoughts for a while; ponder them.  One of the ways that God has been working on that in my mind is that I have been wrestling with these phrases that we see in scriptures; one is “being filled with the Spirit.”  Another one is called “having the Spirit come upon you”.  Another way scripture talks about it is “being in the Spirit.”  I have been kind of playing with those, let those phrases kind of sit in my mind, going “God are they the same?  Are they different?  How?”  I am just kind of living with those.  Slowing down allows the words of scripture to penetrate our heart, all that are prerequisites for living a life of significance; because people who live a life of significance live a life of grace and of beauty and of the peace of Christ.  They exhibit the fruit of the Spirit.  That is one of the outcomes of an increased SQ.

 

Increasing your significance quotient will require change; and, I hope you have gotten the notion by now; it’s not something you have to do on your own.  It is a cooperative effort between God and us.  Allow God to bring the needed change into your life and then step out in faith knowing that God will lead you to great things for Him.  I think your potential significance is only limited by your faith.  I came across this quote from Nelson Mandela that I think is appropriate, and it says, “There is no passion to be found in playing small, in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”  Wow! And to that I say “Go big!  Go big!  Live a life of significance.” Let’s pray.

 

Mighty and holy God, we do desire to live a life of significance.  I think it is part of our spiritual DNA.  So Lord, I ask that you would grow our significance in our lives as we lean on you and allow you to change us into the person that you see us to be.  Lord thank you, that you are so faithful, that you stand by us and walk with us to increase our life in you.  In your name we ask it.  Amen.