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Disappointments - His Disappointments

August 6, 2006

Rev. William "Buck" Day

Several years ago Cindy and I had the wonderful opportunity to go to Israel.  Israel is obviously in some sense is not a safe place today but it really hasn’t been for a long time. We had the opportunity to do one of those eight day whirl wind tours.  We got to see almost everything and particularly I like to say another “ABC – Another Bloom’n Church” because everywhere you go there in the holy spots they put a church. One of the highlights of the trip for me was to walk where the Mount of Olives is. Where Jesus spent the night and cried out to the Lord, the place where he was arrested.   What is wonderful about that place is that the olive trees last for centuries and it is quite possible that some those trees are still around.  If you walk up to the top you can see the light shimmering off the Dead Sea which is forty miles straight down hill.  A great place to go.  I found myself thinking about that place as I was there and how Jesus must have felt.  Certainly, he was distressed but I can’t help but believe that in the midst of all his suffering that he felt a profound disappointment.  Just a few days before this he had been welcomed into the city as a king, the Messiah.  Which he was and is.  People were shouting, “Hosanna! Hosanna!” and these same people just a few hours from this point would be calling for his death.  I can’t help but think he was mostly disappointed. Though he knew what was going to happen he still loved them.  He had to be very disappointed in the disciples, the disciples who had been with him three years. They ran like rabbits.  It was fight or flight and they did the flight portion.  He was left alone.

 

Disappointment is a huge part of life.  We don’t have to live too long until we are disappointed in something, in some cases, very profoundly disappointed.  It’s always there for us.  It’s like an ad that appeared in a small town newspaper.  It read, “Will trade one white wedding gown, size sixteen for thirty-eight caliber revolver.”  I wonder what that meant.  Or even, pastors get disappointed.  There is a story of a pastor who during the first five years of his ministry had a sign on his desk, “Win the world for Christ”.   The next five years the sign read, “Win five for Christ”.  And after ten years he changed the sign to read, “Don’t lose too many.”  It’s not hard to find disappointment.  If you read the Bible you don’t have to read too many pages to find disappointments.  We find that life is hard.  We find that life hurts.  We also find in the scriptures the message that disappointments are many times His appointments.  The world does not rest on our shoulders but on God’s.  As Jesus knelt in the garden in agonizing prayer and though he knew there was no way to avoid the pain on the cross he also knew God was in control.  When we know that God is in control we can endure.

 

I’m going to read to you a couple of scriptures this morning.  The first is from John 16.  Jesus is preparing his disciples for disappointment but notice what he says. 

 

17Some of his disciples said to one another, "What does he mean by saying, 'In a little while you will see me no more, and then after a little while you will see me,' and 'Because I am going to the Father'?" 18They kept asking, "What does he mean by 'a little while'? We don't understand what he is saying." 19Jesus saw that they wanted to ask him about this, so he said to them, "Are you asking one another what I meant when I said, 'In a little while you will see me no more, and then after a little while you will see me'? 20I tell you the truth, you will weep and mourn while the world rejoices. You will grieve, but your grief will turn to joy. 21A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come; but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world. 22So with you: Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy. 23In that day you will no longer ask me anything. I tell you the truth, my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name. 24Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete. 25"Though I have been speaking figuratively, a time is coming when I will no longer use this kind of language but will tell you plainly about my Father. 26In that day you will ask in my name. I am not saying that I will ask the Father on your behalf. 27No, the Father himself loves you because you have loved me and have believed that I came from God. 28I came from the Father and entered the world; now I am leaving the world and going back to the Father." 29Then Jesus' disciples said, "Now you are speaking clearly and without figures of speech. 30Now we can see that you know all things and that you do not even need to have anyone ask you questions. This makes us believe that you came from God." 31"You believe at last!" Jesus answered. 32"But a time is coming, and has come, when you will be scattered, each to his own home. You will leave me all alone. Yet I am not alone, for my Father is with me. 33"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."

 

Galatians 6:9

 

9Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.

 

This is the Word of the Lord.

 

Thanks be to God.

 

Would you pray with me?

 

Oh Father, I pray that you would enter our hearts and minds as we listen to the words.  May Your Spirit flow through us as you heal us.  May we reach out to others.  May we not have disappointments in our lives take away our faith but build them up through Your power and Your glory.  In Jesus’ Name.  Amen. 

 

Today we end our series of sermons on faith.  “Achieving through believing” we have called it. We’ll talk about disappointments because disappointments in the end can hurt our faith maybe most of all.  How do we deal with disappointment?  They are all around us.  Every day we are disappointed in something.  How do we keep on believing when all the circumstances and all the things that happen in our lives, how do we keep believing and achieving?  I believe there are two keys to having persistent faith.  The first is to understand how God works in our lives.  We have to understand what God wants to do in our lives.  If we don’t understand that we are going to be discouraged and we are going to give up.  What I have found, though God deals with us each individually, is that God also tends to have a kind of pattern that He uses with all of us.  There are certain things that God does and it is very common for each believer in some portion of his or her life. 

 

The first thing that God does with almost everyone is that He gives us a mission or a dream or calling.  Everyone has this.  It’s a starting point. God gives us this calling, dream, idea, a goal, a challenge.  When God wants to do anything He starts with this with someone.  Some of us have started a business we began with a dream.  Some of us have started all kinds of things, gone in certain directions.  We see that in the Bible over and over again.  God gives Noah this mission of building an ark.  God gives Abraham the calling of leaving his whole family and his friends and even his country, later, a literal dream of becoming the father of a great nation, multitudes. God gave David the dream of being a king, or the calling.  He gave Mary a mission, a calling of bearing the Messiah.  And then of course, Jesus is the Messiah and has a calling when the Holy Spirit descends upon him to go out into the world and begin his ministry.

 

If you’re like me, you’re wondering well okay God gives me a dream but how do I know its from God?  How do I know this mission is from God, I’m confused enough?  I agree its not always easy.  I’m not so sure its always the problem with God’s communication ability.  I think a lot of times God gives us a mission or a calling and we just don’t want to go there.  We have other things to do.  I remember in my own life several years ago I was struggling with something.  I kept saying to God, “Just show me what to do!  Write it in the sky!  Do something!”  I never have heard a real voice but it was a voice that appears in your head.  And it said this to me, “I’ve already shown you what you should do.  Go do it. I’ve already made it clear.  Just go do it.  The problem is you just don’t want to.”  He was right, which leads us to the second thing.

 

We have to make a decision about whether we are going to follow the call or not.  In our lives the opportunities are a multitude.  Not only one calling but there are many kinds of things that God wants us to do. It always involves a dream or a vision or a calling or a mission and then we need to make a decision.  Am I going to do this or not?  A dream or a mission is worthless until we choose to do it.  This decision phase is the process of faith that involves letting go of some kind of security.  Noah had to let go.  Could you imagine being told to build an ark in the middle of nowhere?  A huge boat, what’s that?  It took decades.  Having to go to the equivalent of an ancient hardware store and say, “I’d like some stuff.”  “What are you building?”  “I’m building this ark.”  “What’s that?”  “It’s suppose to float.”  “Where’s the water?”  Can you imagine having to give up your self respect, for that long?  Or Abraham had to let go of his home land, his family, his friends, his gods, he wasn’t a believer initially.  Mary had to decide that it would be okay to be considered a slut by the local people.  She had the magnificent decision of saying, “Let it to be to me as you have said.”  Jesus had to decide several times.  In this Garden of Gethsemane he suffered but he did so in submission.  He let go of his own will in this garden and responded to the situation in total faith and trust.

 

I’m reminded of a story about a Brigadier General named Dick Abel that was part of the contingent that went to Vietnam when they freed all the prisoners from the prison camps many of them for many, many years. On the flight home the General sat next to man that spent eight years in prison and he wanted to know how he could survive that long, long ordeal.  He replied, “If it weren’t for Jesus Christ I would have never made it.”  He claims that on one brutal, exhausting march between camps he looked up and saw a vision of Christ and he said to him, “Larry you’ll make it.  When I climbed the hill I had a cross on my back.”  When we are young we believe we will live forever.  We’re convinced that anything is possible but as the years go by we face life’s many disappointments.  If we come in faith we come to see that anything is possible as long as God is in it.  Jesus suffered in submission and he made the decision to do so.

 

The third phase is usually a delay of some kind.  God always makes you wait.  And it is often where we get bogged down.  Especially in modern times, we are so impatient.  I know I am.  I want it now or I want it yesterday.  I have seen again and again, I have to be reminded again and again that God knows what He is doing.  Even when I want to get something done in church and a delay happens, God always has something better than I had in mind.  I always forget it.  We have to wait on God.  Noah waited a hundred and twenty years for it to rain.  Abraham waited ninety-nine for a son.  Moses waited forty years in the desert. Joseph waited in prison falsely accused.  David was anointed king when he was a teenager but it was a long time being chased around the desert with Saul trying to kill him before he became king.  Jesus waited thirty years for three years of ministry and he waited for his disciples to get it and they never did while he was alive.  Why does God take us through this delay?  It goes back to that question, what does God want to do in your life? What does He want to do in my life?  God wants us to trust Him.  Typical reaction, “What’s wrong? Did I miss the dream?”  Delay will never destroy God’s purpose in your life.  God uses that delay to do something better.  He is more about trying to teach us faith.  God is much more concerned about teaching you amd me faith than He really is about doing stuff. 

 

The next stage is difficulties.  It is amazing to me that God says, “Go do it.  Go to the Promised Land.  Build an ark. Be king.  Be the Messiah.”  There are always difficulties. It’s never easy.  Wouldn’t it be nice if it would be easy sometimes?  But its not.  You get two kinds of problems, critics and circumstances.  Somebody’s trying to kill you in one way or another. Somebody’s trying to ridicule you.  Someone oppose you or circumstances, “Where’s the money going to come from for that?”  We see Joseph’s whole life go downhill. His brothers are selling him into slavery, he gets falsely accused, and he gets put into prison (not just for a few days – for years).  We have David anointed by Samuel to be king and chased all over the desert trying to get away from Saul.  And of course, Jesus had difficulties. 

 

Sometimes we get to the place with a dead end but that seems to be the place where God does the miracle of some kind.  God does something to make something happen.  Someone told me of the building of this church, the activity center.  It got delayed for a couple of years and then in the end someone sold us another piece of property.  The delay seemed like it killed the project but if it hadn’t have happened we wouldn’t have gotten the other property.  You wouldn’t be where you are today.  Delays, difficulties, deliverance.  The biggest miracle that God is trying to accomplish is not simply the task.  God is trying to produce faith.  We take credit for the faith we have.  The Bible says that faith only comes by the activity of God in your life, the Holy Spirit working in your life.  Our hearts are dark.  Our hearts are sinful.  Without the God acting in our lives to produce faith we don’t believe.  God works in our lives and produces faith.  When I see someone come to Christ, I think that is the biggest miracle of all.  Even when we grow, when our faith expands, God is at work. 

 

What are we to do? We are to WAIT.  The W stands for “withstand”.  It’s an old English word used in the King James Version. It means to endure successfully.  Ephesians 6 says to put on the full armor of God so that you can withstand against the devil’s schemes.  Stand firm take up th shield of faith so you can extinguish the flaming darts of the evil one, the flaming darts of depression, discouragement.  Withstand.

 

Second thing we do is Anticipate.  Yes, there is some positive thinking going on here.  We need to anticipate that God is going to act.  David says over and over again, “Lord I expect you to rescue me. I eagerly wait for your help.”  My question for all of us today is what are we expecting God to do in our lives?  What are we expecting Him to do today?  Next week? In this church?  We need to anticipate as we wait.  Anticipation is all about hope.  The bible says that hope is the anchor of the soul.  Without hope we have nothing.  We talk about how Jesus suffered.  Jesus suffered with the knowledge that his hurting would be used by God.  His suffering was not meaningless.

 

A mother was telling her young daughter of the passion and death of Christ. She explained how people were upset with him.  How people wanted to punish him. How they crowned him with thorns.  How they whipped him.  How they forced him to carry a cross.  And how finally, they nailed him to the cross and killed him.  The little girl thought for a moment and asked, “Mommy, why were they so hard on him, couldn’t they have just sent him to his room?” It would be nice, but that’s not the way it worked out.  God used his suffering, his disappointments just as God uses our disappointments.  I believe there is meaningless suffering its part of an evil world.  The big picture is that God will win in the end.  He wins in the end but he also wins in our life now.  God never misuses a hurt.

 

There was a story many years ago about a woman named Helen Roseveare who was running a medical mission in Zaire.  She was kidnapped by a team of guerilla soldiers.  They beat and raped her and locked her in a dirty cell.  She considered giving up her ministry.  She gave it to God.  Ten years later she was speaking at a university.  In the course of her talk she mentioned her rape.  Although she still did not understand why it happened she told the students, “By the wonderful enabling of the Holy Spirit I was able to thank God for trusting me with that experience.”  Afterwards, two teenage girls approached her.  One girl explained that her sister had been raped.  Since the rape the girl had not spoken a word but that night she had found healing in this story.  Through tears she said, “nobody ever told me I could thank God for trusting me with such an experience, even if he chooses never to tell me why.”  Jesus suffered in submission.  He suffered with the knowledge that hurting is used by God. 

 

We also Intercede, W-A-I, another word for praying.  The bible tells us to keep on praying and never give up. Remember the story of the woman who went to the unjust judge and wouldn’t let the judge alone until he gave her justice.  Jesus uses that parable to say to us, “Always pray and don’t give up.”  Morning by morning, day by day, year by year pray without ceasing.  One of the things we will continue into heaven is prayer.  Almost everything else goes away but we will pray because prayer is simply conversation with God and we will continue to do that.  Continue to pray.

 

T - trust. As I have quoted Proverbs 3 to you again and again, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart.  Don’t lean on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your paths. Trust in the Lord.”  Jesus himself suffered with conviction that God was in control and that God is good and loving.  That is true.  One the biggest challenge to our faith is we go through life and we suffer disappointment and suffer is that we are tempted as Oswald Chambers once said, “to believe that God is not good.”  In the Garden of Eden theologians talk about Adam and Eve wanted to have authority so they rebelled against God’s authority.  They really doubted God’s goodness.  The temptation was, “Did God really say that?” He was really tempting them to believe that God was not good by this command.  We are tempted as well to believe that God is not good especially when we suffer greatly.  Especially unto death, or we watch a child die, or we go through all kinds of problems.  For some people it’s like the little black cloud that follows them around again and again and again.  When it rains it pours for some folks and we go through that.  It’s tempting to believe that God is not good.  Jesus could have given into that but Jesus trusted that his Father loved him and knew what he was doing.

 

Evil is a real thing in the world.  I find it very amazing that in the political discussions of our day often evil is not even talked about.  But evil is real.  Sometimes we have to deal with it and fight it.  Sometimes we have to endure it.  But God is in control.

So how do we deal with disappointment?  Just understand what God is doing in your life.  God has a process for you.  He is trying to help you grow in faith to Him.  We also need to wait.  We need to withstand.  We need to anticipate.  We need to prayer or intercede. We need to trust.  You are His people, He loves you.  Go forth in His Name. 

In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit.  Amen.