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"How to Give Your Pastors a Hand"

 

October 12, 2003 The Rev. Dr. Will Eisenhower

 

I want to let you know that I like being appreciated very much and I want to thank you very much for this Sunday for me and for John.  And I say that all the more because in the message this morning, what I want to do is communicate something of my sense of inadequacy, of not being up to the job.  And I want to make sure that no one thinks that I am trying to block your well-wishing, to block your show of appreciation.  That's not it.  It's just that as I knew that we were sort of moving up toward Pastor Appreciation Sunday, I thought that it would be a great time to say some things that I hope help prepare us for the new Senior Pastor who is to come.  So I want to share--I want to confess to you--something of my sense of inadequacy regarding being a pastor and being your pastor, even though I don't think that what I say would exactly be the same thing, would exactly be true for John.  I don't think it would exactly be true for the new Senior Pastor who is to come.  Nevertheless, I think all of us who are in full-time professional ministry will have something similar to what I'm about to share.

 

I remember, back in the fifties, I grew up in Bakersfield.  My father was a Presbyterian pastor in Bakersfield, California.  One of the minister jokes that I remember my mother telling me long ago, back in those days, is a minister joke about a church without a pastor--a church like ours, between pastors with a search committee.  The search committee was praying together about the new pastor to come and the Pastor Nominating Committee was praying, "O, Lord, send us a new minister, poor and humble.  You keep him humble and we'll keep him poor."  I want to talk about the "humble" part, not the "poor" part, because I have absolutely no complaints whatsoever about my compensation here.  But the "humble" part I want us to look at.  And I want to let you know that ministry inevitably brings with it a sense--life does to all of us, but being a pastor does in particular--it brings with it just a sense that there's far more demanded of you than any one person, or all people combined, could ever sort of live up to.  And in my case, this is something that I have always been haunted by.

 

I remember when I was a new pastor.  I had been to three years of seminary, got ordained, and accepted a call.  Very ironic:  I had been in seminary in Berkeley, California for three years and then accepted a call to Lincoln, Nebraska, which is kind of culturally a little different from Berkeley, California.  So I am a brand new minister and I remember it was in that first year.  It was Good Friday, and it would have been late enough on Good Friday--this was a very large church, 3,000 members.  There were four pastors on the staff and I was the brand new person.  I was the low person on the totem pole.  But it was Good Friday afternoon and I'm the only clergyperson in the house.  A call came in to the receptionist downstairs.

"Is Bob there?" (Senior Pastor)

"No, he's gone."

"Well, is Ev there?"

"No, he's gone."

"Is Lee there?"

"No, he's gone."

"Well, is Will there?"

"Yes, he's here."

 

So I got the telephone call.  It was the man, the member of the congregation who that night, for our Good Friday service, was given the responsibility to read the Scripture.  He said, "Now, there are some words in the Scripture that I don't know how to pronounce, so could you just tell me so I'll know how to say this tonight?"  I said, "Well, what is it?"  And you might even want to turn over with me.  He said, "Well, this is in Mark chapter 15 and they are in verse 34.  Mark 15, verse 34."  So I looked and, you know, it's sort of spelled out for us.  And I'm going, "Oh, my gosh . . ."  Because, see, I knew that Mark 15:34 is Aramaic and I had no idea how to pronounce these words.  So I looked down and I go, "Well, 'Eloi, Eloi, lema sabachthani.' " 

And he goes, "Eloi, Eloi, lema sabachthani"?

And I go, "Yeah, yeah--that's it!" 

And he goes, "Eloi, Eloi, lema sabachthani."

"Yeah, yeah, yeah."

And he goes, "Oh, man, am I ever glad that I found an expert!"

 

So he was so pleased, and he was so proud.  And I was there that night at the service and he, you know, had rehearsed in the hours from late afternoon to that evening, he had been rehearsing saying it.  To this day, I have no idea how to pronounce it.  He said it exactly like he had heard it from me, but, you know what?  In seminary we never studied Aramaic.  They never told me in three years of seminary.  Nobody ever said, "Here's how you pronounce these words." 

 

You say, "Didn't you take Hebrew and Greek?"  Well, yes.  Yes, I took Hebrew.  Yes, I took Greek.  This is neither Hebrew nor Greek.  It's definitely not English.  This is the language that the Palestinian Jews spoke at the time of Jesus and they no longer spoke Old Testament Hebrew.  It's a different language.  It's related to Hebrew in the same way that Spanish and French are related to each other.  But I, that night, went away feeling there's something really, really wrong with me that I don't know how to say this and that I get looked at as the expert who is going to know the answer to all of these questions.  And this one incident, with several others--this was not the only one.  There were probably about twelve different things that happened to me in those early years.  But honestly, this was one among others that made me feel like, "I don't know enough and I'm terribly embarrassed about the fact that I don't know enough.  I'm going to go back to school and get a Ph.D." 

 

Now, not this incident alone, but this incident and several others.  And they all had to do with times where I was embarrassed that I didn't know enough.  I felt like, "Yes, I should know the answer to questions I am being asked, but no, I don't."  So I spent five years--went back to school, got a Ph.D. in Systematic Theology.  And now the wonderful conclusion to this story is at the end of that five years of additional study I got the doctorate in Systematic Theology.  You know, there was never a time where I learned Aramaic in any of that.  I still do not know the answer to that question!  And, as a matter of fact, if you've done advanced study, then you're going to appreciate what I'm about to say.  The only thing that getting a Ph.D. does for you is it impresses you with how little you know.  Because you become the world's expert in such a small and inconsequential area that it drives home for you not how much you know, but how little you know!  And I would say every day I'm haunted by the fact that I don't know nearly as much as I wish I knew.  And please continue asking me your questions, because I very much want for you to bring those to me.  But every now and then you will ask me something and it will simply reinforce to me this sense of inadequacy that I have. 

 

Now, in one sense I'm confessing something that I think is a negative, but in another sense, I'm trying to share with you something that is actually a very, very good thing.  It's actually a very, very good thing for you to have a pastor who knows that he doesn't know.  There may be pastors who don't know that they don't know.  But, honestly, I don't think that there are very many.  Because there's something about the job that forever brings across our path things that we are not adequate to, things that we are not up to.  And this morning's Scripture is going to illustrate that for us.  It's not the Mark passage.  We're not going to do any more with Aramaic.  It's the passage that we have in Exodus, Exodus chapter 17.  This is a wonderful incident that illustrates the point that I'm making this morning.  Exodus 17, beginning with verse 8.  This is an incident having to do with the life of Moses and having to do with the people of Israel after they had come out from their slavery in Egypt.  In verse 8, this is what we read:

 

Then Amalek came and fought with Israel at Rephidim.  Moses said to Joshua, "Choose some men for us and go out, fight with Amalek.  Tomorrow I will stand on the top of the hill with the staff of God in my hand."  So Joshua did as Moses told him, and fought with Amalek, while Moses, Aaron, and Hur went up to the top of the hill.  Whenever Moses held up his hand, Israel prevailed; and whenever he lowered his hand, Amalek prevailed.  But Moses' hands grew weary; so they took a stone and they put it under him, and he sat on it.  Aaron and Hur held up his hands, one on one side, and the other on the other side; so his hands were steady until the sun set.  And Joshua defeated Amalek and his people with the sword.

 

Now in this story, it's a fairly simple story, you know.  When Moses' hands are up like that, the Israelites prevailed.  The battle goes in favor of Israel.  When he lowers his hands, the battle goes the other way.  And his hands get too tired.  After a while, he can't hold his hands up any more.  So they sit him down on a rock and Aaron stands on one side and holds up his hand.  And Hur stands on the other side and holds up his hand.  If nothing else, what we see in this incident is that God has more blessing, more victory, more success for His people, than any one person is adequate to bringing in, to ushering in, to mediating.  If I think that all of the blessings of God that are going to come into this congregation, or if John does--if any one group or even one little faction within the life of this congregation thinks that everything that God is going to bring into this church is going to come in through us, sooner or later our arms are going to get too tired.  Sooner or later, we're not going to be up to it.  And God is going to have more that could come in--there could be more blessing, more success, more victory. 

 

 And so the question is, are those of us in leadership going to allow for ourselves to be supported by the rest of you?  And I want to say I hope that my answer is always, "Yes."  I hope that I am always being kept with a fresh awareness that I need your support, that I need your prayers, that I know that God's plans for this church are bigger than me.  And I think that we have every reason to believe that the new Senior Pastor that is going to come our way is going to be someone who, though maybe not having the insecurities that I have--do you understand?  May not have the sense of inadequacy in exactly the way that I do, but in some way or another is going to have fresh in his or her mind the sense that, "My hands aren't strong enough.  My hands aren't steady enough.  I can't keep my hands up long enough.  I need other people around to support me, to encourage me."  The reason that I decided to bring you this word is because Pastor Appreciation Sunday is a wonderful way for you to indicate to John and to me--and I hope that you continue to do it for your pastors, to say, "Hey, we do support you.  We do encourage you." 

 

Well, life just has a way of keeping ministers humble.  Why would that be?  Well, if we're in the God-business and we know who God is, then you have to go, "God's kind of big."  Amen?  Can we agree on that one?  "And I'm kind of little."  And God is a lot bigger, and God's plans for us are a lot bigger than just any one person can sort of help usher in.

 

So my first point is I think that life just has a way of keeping ministers humble.  And if, in the midst of sort of confronting circumstance after circumstance where I feel like I don't know enough, I'm not up to it, I'm not adequate for what's being asked of me, it can help a lot to have balancing my sense of inadequacy the wonderful shows of appreciation that you have been sending my way and Nancy's way from when we first got here.  I mean, you've been wonderful at that!  You've been wonderful at supporting us.  So I want to say 99.9% of the ministers out there know that they're not good enough and need encouraging words from you.

 

Now, there may be pastors out there who don't appear to know that they don't know.  And, you know, I don't even think that that's true . . . I mean, I can't imagine that.  But, for argument's sake, let's just say are there pastors out there who don't know that they don't know.  Or who don't realize that God is infinitely large and that they are very, very small.  Well, what about that?  Well, I commend to you the avenue of giving ministers displays of affection and appreciation whether they seem to have inferiority complexes or not.  Because, number one, some of us in the clergy are sort of very, very good at hiding our inferiority complexes.  You know what I mean?  And in Presbyterian churches, these robes are really good at that.  Do you know what I mean?  But not only is it the case that a minister can actually really know that he falls short, that she falls short, but hide it.  But even if God were to send us a know-it-all--let's just imagine, OK?  I want to commend to you the same avenue--the supportive, the showing appreciation, the demonstrations of affection, even if it's somebody who does not have the problem that I have. 

 

And why would that be?  Because congregations can have a wonderful, shaping influence on pastors.  I'm thinking of something right now that in academic circles is called the "Greenspoon effect."  The "Greenspoon effect" is named after professor Greenspoon.  He was teaching his students about conditioning, and about how when you give the little pigeons the pellets, you can reinforce certain behaviors in the little pigeons and soon enough the pigeon is sort of . . .   And the class (without Professor Greenspoon knowing about it) decided that they were going to try a little experiment in class of their own.  And what they decided they wanted to differentially reinforce is any time Professor Greenspoon would turn in this direction [to the left] their gaze would go down, they would start looking bored and not interested, and showing no signs of paying any attention at all.  Any time that he turned over in this direction [to the right] they would get excited, and they would start asking questions and they would brighten up and smile.  During that semester--by the end of that semester, they had him lecturing over to the chalkboard on the right, against the wall, simply be being enthusiastic every time he made a turn! 

 

Now, you know, can a "Greenspoon effect" work in a church circle?  I believe that it certainly can.  And so I want to commend to you being affectionate, being encouraging, being appreciative, being supportive. 

 

If you get a "wonderful blessing" from God, and also if you get a "work in progress" from God, shall we say, either way, I want to let you know whether that person knows it or not, God is way, way bigger than he or she is sure to be.  This church is going to need your help.  I'm very, very sure that your pastor is going to know that.  And even if you can't tell whether the pastor knows it or not, the same thing that I, with all of my insecurities, need from you--that's the same thing that that other person, the theoretical know-it-all person, is going to need.

 

So I want to say just as Moses needed Aaron and Hur to hold up his hands so that the victory that God wanted the people to have could be realized, you're giving that to John and me this morning.  And I want to encourage you to keep doing that. 

 

Let's pray.  Dear Heavenly Father, we thank you, Lord, that it's your will that no one of us is ever sufficient to bring in the good things, the victories, the triumph, that you have in store.  Lord, we pray that you would give us the sense to hold one another up.  And it's in the strong name of Jesus that we pray.  Amen.

 

Rev. Dr. Will Eisenhower

Interim Pastor

Faith Presbyterian Church

Minnetonka, Minnesota

 

[Transcribed from an audiotape of the worship service on October 12, 2003.]