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"Friends"

April 14, 2002        Rev. Gary LeTourneau

 

I do not call you servants any longer, because the servant does not know what the master is doing; but I have called you friends, because I have made known to you everything I have heard from my Father.  You did not choose me, but I chose you.   And I appointed you to go and bear fruit, fruit that will last, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask in my name.  I am giving you these commands so that you may love one another.

John 15:15-17

 

A couple weeks ago some people were asking what I would preach on for my last Sunday.  It's a difficult sermon to prepare.  I have so much I want to say from my heart.  They suggested that I could just look back through all the sermons where I got cut-off because of time--and I have all those "third points"!  I could have entitled it, "And Another Thing . . ." and I could just sort of run through them all.  But I'm not going to do that. 

 

I'm returning to my favorite gospel, the gospel of John.  The symbol of the gospel of John is the eagle, because the theology soars in John's gospel.  And I believe in this passage we have an example of soaring theology, but you may miss it because the language is so familiar.

 

The disciples were with Jesus for three years, and it was a constant struggle for the disciples to figure out just who Jesus was and what their relationship with Jesus was supposed to be.  He's the Christ, the "Anointed One, " the "Messiah."  He's the Son of God, the Creator of the world and the Master of everything.  Jesus is their Lord, to whom they owe their complete and total allegiance.  He's the Lamb of God, slain from the foundation of the world, the one who came to die for them, to take away their sins.  And then here in John 15 Jesus adds another.  And it's really the one that puts together God's whole plan of salvation--His love for you and me, what His intention was in creation, what His intention was when He redeemed us and saved us.  Jesus says, "No longer do I call you servants, but I have called you friends." 

 

Now, think about that for a minute, friends.  This is the God of the universe, the Creator, the Redeemer, the Lord.  And the word He uses to describe our relationship with Him is "friend."  Does that make you uncomfortable?  It does me a little bit.  I'm much more comfortable thinking of God as the one to whom I owe my service because I know who God is and I know who I am, and I know how things stack up and sort out.  But "friend" implies a mutuality, an openness to a relationship, a co-dependence on each other, an intertwining of lives.  And Jesus says, "I'm calling you friends"--because the God of the universe wants to be friends with us.  See?  And that's why Jesus came.  That's why God's plan for yours and my salvation works out just the way it did--so we could know Him personally, and be in a relationship with Him, and be known as His friend.  Friend of God.

 

Now, I know when in a romantic relationship, one part of a couple says, "Let's just be friends . . ."  That's something else, isn't it!

 

But Jesus is saying, "Let's be friends."  He wants to have a relationship at the deepest level.  What does that mean, to be a friend of Jesus?  First, He says you're my friends because I haven't held back anything from you.  Whatever I have received from the Father, I've told you.  Because in a friendship there's openness, and there's respect, and there's total disclosure.  Jesus says because you are now friends of God, whatever you ask in my name, God the Father will do it for you.

 

Have you ever noticed how parents are around their children's friends?  They love their children's friends because they're friends of the children.  They love to have them over and do things.  I think of how many times when I have been involved in a funeral service and the kids tell me, "Mom always had a place at the kitchen table for all of my friends and it's where all the neighborhood gathered.  Just because they were my friends, they were all treated as part of the family."  That's what Jesus is saying.  Because you and I are friends of Jesus Christ, our Heavenly Father welcomes us and will give us whatever we ask in the name of Jesus.  So, says Jesus, go and bear much fruit, because the Creator God of the universe promised to give you all you need to do that. 

 

And then Jesus says because you're friends, "Love one another."  Because you're friends of me, you're friends of each other.  And love one another.   Lay down your lives for each other.  Serve each other as I have served you."  That's what friends do.  You see, and that's what it means to be a Christian.

 

The apostle Paul introduced himself in all his letters as a servant.  He could have just as easily and perhaps more fully said, "servant and friend of God, of Jesus Christ."  And that's what you and I are invited to do and be as a result of His life, and His death, and His resurrection.  We can be known as the friends of God.

 

You know, today, after this morning and the reception afterwards, I will cease to be your pastor.  Our presbytery has a policy on "separation ethics" for pastors and congregations.  It's several pages long.  (They have a policy on everything--don't let that alarm you!)  But they have a policy on that.  Let me just summarize it with this sentence or two:   After today I'll stop being your pastor, but I will be your friend.  And you will be my friend, and the friend of my family.  That's what will characterize our relationship.  I'll have to say "no" to requests which have to do with me being a pastor.  And I will very much want to keep being your friend.  See how that will work?  That's what the policy says.  But I'm looking forward to being your friend because I believe and know that we've been friends all along.

 

You know, in the theater there is this great tradition that while the production is on, the actors never break their role.  They always stay in their part, so that the total effect of the production is felt by the audience.  But after the production, then the actors and actresses step out from behind the curtain and take their bows and they can give interviews with the press and talk about what has happened.  Well, I'm able now to step out of the role of being your pastor and I can talk to you as a friend, and as one who very much wants to continue being your friend.

 

Let me talk a little bit about being your pastor.  So many of you have shared with me in these last weeks how much you have enjoyed my messages and what they have meant to you, and I really appreciate that, because it's something I've worked hard on.  I believe it's a gift God has given me, and I enjoy using it and sharing it with you.  But  I'd like to share with you my sort of philosophy. 

 

It comes from a pastor named Richard Baxter, a reformed pastor of the sixteenth century.  He wrote a little book called The Reformed Pastor.  It was really an introduction to how it is that protestants, out of the Catholic Church--how do we go about the practice of ministry?  He talked about everything that a good reformed pastor does with examples from his own parish and ministry.  When he comes to preaching and his advice on preaching, Richard Baxter says this--and I really have tried to take it as my motto:  "When you preach, preach as a dying man to dying men."  Now, you could update that for the gender references, and it applies perfectly.  When you talk about God, and who He is, and what He's done, talk as if you're someone without a long time to live and let that dictates the urgency of your message.  And imagine that the people who are receiving it may not have a long time to live.  And tell them what they need to know in those circumstances.  That's what a reformed pastor does.

 

I've been with so many of you when your families have been visited by death.  And I know that the whole character of conversations and relationships--everything changes.  I've even been with some of you when a family member who knew they were going to die approaches that time, and I've been with some of you in those precious, precious moments when someone is able to say, right at the end, the few words that they want to mean the most to their family.  And they didn't talk about the weather, or sports, or all of life's inconsequential things.  They spoke from the heart of what was true--and about their love for their family, and their hope for the future, and their desire for God to bless those who were remaining behind.  Well, it's been a privilege to be your pastor and to walk with you, and to talk with you, and to share in so many of those circumstances.

 

I have say a word of my gratitude for the team that I work with.  All ministry is a team effort.  And the team that I've had at Faith Church is outstanding!  I want to take a moment to publicly honor and thank them.  I begin with John Ward.  (Despite capturing my sermon . . .)  You know, the language John has used to describe his role to me I think comes from his time in the war with those naval aviators.   He said he's tried to be my "wing man."  And he's been a wonderful colleague and a wonderful Associate.  You're very blessed as a congregation to have John.  Then I think of our Youth Ministry, of Dave and Dianne.  I see Dave.  I don't know where Dianne is.  There she is.  Hi, Dianne!  Childrens ministries--Cindy and Donna and Lori.  And our music--with Tim,  and Josh, and Ruth.  Those who lead worship every week.  I've been very blessed as the leader of the team and a colleague of yours to work with you at Faith Church.  I believe Faith Church is very fortunate to have you.  And church, I'll just ask you to love this team, because they're good.  Thank you.  You've been very wonderful for me.  You know, I forgot Merrilee in the office and Bernice . . .  you know Bernice--she's going to outlast your next pastor, I bet!  She's unstoppable!  Her love for this congregation! 

 

And you know, I have to thank you, the congregation, for your love for me and for my family.  You've let me be your pastor.  You've let me share with you, and love you, and grow with you, and change with you.  There's a wonderful thing that happens in ministry.  When you start, you talk about ministry "to" people.  When the transition comes, you talk about ministry "with" people.  And we've just had a wonderful season of ministry with you.  Joan and I will never forget your love for us--how you have celebrated with us, rejoiced with us.  And the times you have cried with us and prayed with and for us.

 

I talk about this front pew.  The Pickards are in it today, but it's the pew that you sit in when your family is having a funeral service here in the sanctuary.  Joan and I have sat in that pew, as well as me standing up here.  I've been on both sides of that, and I know how wonderful your love is as a congregation.  We will always take in our hearts from Minnesota the gift of our children Hannah and Ben, who are alive on earth, and the gift of Nathan, our baby who is alive in heaven.  We love you and we will miss you very much.  I'm glad that we can be friends.  And the best way that Jesus has to say it.  Let's be friends now.

 

I'd like to conclude by sharing with you and actually together looking at what I think might be my favorite Psalm.  (You could probably push me and get me to choose another at different times.)  But you know,  Psalm 121.  I learned it in the King James:  "I lift up my eyes to the hills, from whence cometh my help?"  That's a Psalm for Colorado and people who live in Colorado!  Every morning I'll get up and be able to look southwest and see Long's Peak, and Meeker, and the foothills leading up to them, and I will think of you and I will think of God's promise in this Psalm, to be our keeper, the One who will keep and watch over you and the One who will keep and watch over me.

 

What I'd like to do is for everybody to open and turn to it.  I'm not going to read it to you, and you're not going to read it to me.  We're going to read stand and read it to each other, as God is the One who is invited to watch over us.  Will you stand with me as we do that?  Psalm 121.  It's on page 571 of your pew Bible, if you can find one.  Let's read this together:

 

I lift up my eyes to the hills--

      from where will my help come?

My help comes from the Lord,

      who made heaven and earth.

 

He will not let your foot be moved;

      he who keeps you will not slumber.

He who keeps Israel

      will neither slumber nor sleep.

 

The Lord is you keeper;

      the Lord is your shade at your right hand.

The sun shall not strike you by day,

      nor the moon by night.

 

The Lord will keep you from all evil;

      he will keep your life.

The Lord will keep

      your going out and your coming in

      from this time on and forevermore.

 

Amen.

 

Rev. Gary LeTourneau

Senior Pastor

Faith Presbyterian Church

Minnetonka, Minnesota

 

[Transcribed from an audiotape of the 10:45 a.m. worship service on April 14, 2002]